You Can Love Jesus and Still Have Hard Days
Some days, faith feels steady and familiar. Other days, it feels like you’re just trying to make it through without unraveling. And if you’re honest, the hard days are the ones that bring the most guilt. Because somewhere along the way, many Christian women absorbed the message that loving Jesus should make life feel lighter, more peaceful, more joyful, more manageable. So when the hard days show up anyway, it can feel like a personal failure.
But here’s the truth we don’t say often enough: You can love Jesus deeply and still have very hard days. Those two things are not opposites. They coexist far more often than we admit.
Hard Days Don’t Cancel Your Faith
Hard days don’t mean you’re drifting. They don’t mean you’re ungrateful. They don’t mean you’re doing something wrong spiritually. They mean you are human in a broken world. Scripture never promises a life without struggle. What it promises is presence: God with us in the middle of it.
Even the people we admire most in the Bible had seasons of despair, confusion, and grief:
David wept and questioned God openly
Elijah collapsed under exhaustion
Job sat in sorrow without easy answers
The disciples panicked, doubted, and misunderstood
Their hard days didn’t disqualify them. They revealed their humanity.
Why Hard Days Feel Spiritually Heavier for Women
For many Christian women, hard days don’t just feel hard; they feel loaded. Loaded with:
Expectations to stay positive
Pressure to “choose joy” immediately
Fear of being seen as weak
Guilt for not feeling grateful enough
So instead of acknowledging the weight, women often spiritualize it away. They push through. They pray harder. They smile more convincingly. But unresolved heaviness doesn’t disappear. It settles deeper. God never asked you to pretend your way through pain.
Faith Isn’t Proven by How Little You Struggle
There’s a quiet lie that says strong faith means minimal struggle. But real faith is not the absence of hard days, it’s the willingness to bring hard days into God’s presence without pretending they’re something else.
Jesus Himself wept. He withdrew when He was overwhelmed. He asked for the cup to pass. If the Son of God was honest about pain, you’re allowed to be too.
What Hard Days Might Look Like (And That’s Okay)
Hard days don’t always look dramatic. Sometimes they look like:
Feeling emotionally fragile for no clear reason
Losing patience more easily
Feeling disconnected during worship
Wanting comfort more than correction
Needing rest but feeling guilty for taking it
These are not spiritual shortcomings. They are signals asking for gentleness, not judgment.
What Actually Helps on Hard Days
Not solutions. Not fixing. Just support.
Short, honest prayers
God hears “help” just as clearly as eloquent words.Permission to slow down
Rest is not a lack of faith. It’s part of it.Familiar Scripture
Return to verses that feel safe and grounding — not challenging.Lower expectations for yourself
Hard days are not the time for spiritual performance.
Grace is not reduced because your capacity is.
God Is Not Disappointed by Your Hard Days
This matters. God is not standing at a distance waiting for you to “snap out of it.” He is close, especially in your weakest moments.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.” — Psalm 34:18
Your love for Jesus isn’t measured by your mood, your productivity, or how peaceful you appear. It’s measured by relationship. And relationships make room for hard days.
If You Needed Permission to Be Honest — This Is It
You don’t need to justify your exhaustion. You don’t need to minimize your pain. You don’t need to rush yourself into joy. You can love Jesus and still have days where everything feels heavy. And you are still faithful in those moments.
If this resonates, you’re welcome here. This space was created for women who want faith to feel supportive, not suffocating. Save this for the days you need the reminder. 🤍
